Your Fire Didn't Die. You Just Stopped Feeding It.

This video is for a specific person.

You’re someone who used to have vision and ambition. You had no fear dreaming big and actually going for it.

But life happened, you had some disappointments, and you started to lower your expectations…

And now you feel defeated. You either don’t know what you want anymore, or you know it but don’t believe it’s possible for you.

I’m going to help you reconnect with your fire right now. Because you actually didn’t lose your vision. You just need a little nudge in the right direction.

I know this because 12 years ago, I was depressed, out of shape, creatively stifled, in a dead-end job, and honestly suicidal. I quit that job, started traveling, built a business that made multiple six figures, spent the next 8 years traveling and living in a dozen+ countries, and eventually found and married the perfect partner for me, in a relationship that I thought was impossible — all without knowing how. Just purely following a vision and a trail of energetic clues.

But a couple of years ago, I found myself in a similar place.

While I was flying over the Atlantic, I got the urge to go to the airplane bathroom and cry. I realized at that moment that I didn’t know why I was going to that next country. I didn’t know where else to go, so I was like “Might as well, right?”. I was starting to fall asleep behind the steering wheel of my own life, and I needed to get back online. This is the framework I used.

Here’s the first thing you need to know: You are an artist.

You came here - on earth - with one “goal”: To express yourself. Your true self.

But instead, you’ve been setting goals like a corporation.

Artists create to express something true about themselves.

Corporations create to hit quarterly targets.

Instead of setting a bunch of goals in silos, what you need is to have a vision for an entire world - a whole personal universe, that you design and create, and where you are the main character.

Goals should exist as milestones within this universe.

You want to see yourself, and your life, as your biggest works of art - your ultimate masterpiece.

But there is a problem: ‘Reality’.

The job you have to go to. The bills you have to pay. The responsibilities you have to carry. All of this leaves you feeling so heavy and depleted. So you think there is no room for childlike fantasies anymore.

But when you lose touch with your personal universe, you become consumed with trying to escape the pain of this one, avoiding what you don’t want, and playing not to lose.

The result is a life of chasing half-assed goals that you don’t even want all that much.

I know you’re tired. I know you’re in pain. I know you think you can’t take another disappointment. But you could spend your life fixing all your problems, getting rid of all that you don’t want, and you still wouldn’t have what you do want.

So what do you want?

Think of your universe as a tabletop with 4 pillars:

1. Soul’s Desires: What does your soul truly desire, if there were no fears?
2. Character Story Arc: How did your character get here, and who is it becoming next?
3. Your Energy: What feeds your unique energy and gives you more life-force?
4. The Practice: The daily practice of embodying your new character and building their universe.

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#1: Define Your Character’s (True) Desires

Every great story starts with a character who has desires and motivations.

Don't worry about being reasonable or logical during this exercise. The goal is to dream like a child.

• Get yourself to a place of mental and emotional neutrality. E.g. meditate. **
• *Fast forward 10 years from now, and imagine that you have achieved everything you want.

What does it look like?* Paint a picture until you feel it has happened. You want to get to a place of gratitude and contentment.

• Once you feel it, set a timer for 10 minutes, and start to PLAY with these questions, as if you were a child.
• Ask yourself, “From this place where everything is already done”:
  • Who am I being? How am I showing up?
  • What am I creating?
  • What does my day look like, from beginning to end?
  • How do I look and feel?
  • What is my level of mental development?
  • Anything else I want to add?”

This works because once you remove fear, (i.e. you’ve fulfilled your surface-level needs), what’s left are your soul’s truest desires.

#2: Define Your Character’s Story Arc

Next, you’re going to decide who you are actively becoming in this story.

• From the previous part, you should already begin to see a glimpse of the life you want to create for yourself and some of the goals and dreams you are pursuing.
• Let’s add:
  • What challenges have you overcome so far, that got you here?
  • What interests, skills, and talents helped you to do so?
  • How has all this prepared your character for where you’re going next?
  • What lessons is your character learning or needing to learn right now, for the next chapters?

Tip: Set a 10-minute timer to answer these questions without overthinking. Don’t worry about getting ‘right’, you can change your mind later.

#3: Your Character’s Energy Feeders

Next, we’re going to identify your soul’s inspirations. These inspirations are breadcrumbs to your unique spiritual and creative path.

• Write down all the things that inspire you and make you happy. This can include:
  • Colors
  • Sounds
  • Feelings
  • Scents/Smells
  • People
  • Things
  • Places
  • Ideas
  • Eras
  • Anything and everything. It does not need to make any sense. If it lights you up, add it to the list. **

#4: The Practice (Your Character’s Daily Rehearsal For Embodiment)

Now your job is to embody this character as you build their universe, day by day.

This is NOT about buying or acquiring more stuff. It’s about who you are and what you do — two things that are completely accessible no matter where you are in life.

• Every day, from the moment you wake up, and until you sleep, embody this character.

Think, act, speak, dress, walk, talk like this character. Move like this character, take actions like it has possessed your life.

Keep asking “What would this character do?”. Cosplay it, especially when no one is watching.

Here’s how:

Let’s bring back those desire-based questions.

• Who am I being? How am I showing up?

  • Start showing up as that person every single day. If a fly is on your wall, she should attest to it.

• What am I creating?

  • Begin to create as if you are already that person. Even if you don’t believe you have the skill or resources, begin moving in that direction with whatever you’ve got.

• What does my day look like, from beginning to end?

  • Start living out that day the way you imagined it. Again, it’s not about emulating it perfectly. Do what you can. Treat it like a practice. Every new day is an opportunity to practice, again and again.

• How do I look and feel?

  • You get the idea. Chances are this will also require you to also eat better, sleep better, and move your butt a bit more. Win-win.

• What is my level of mental development?

  • How can you make this a practice? Do you need to read more books? Enroll in specific classes? Meditate more often? Write or journal? Make the time, even 15 minutes a day is better than nothing.

• Anything else you want to add?

  • How are you going to make it a practice?

• And remember your list of inspirations? (colors, sounds, smells, people, things, etc)

  • You’re going to surround yourself with as many of those things as possible.

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  Turn Down Your Analytical Mind, Turn Up Your Inner Artist-Child

  When you do this, turn down your analytical brain, and turn up your inner artist-child brain.

  If a color makes you happy, add it to your workspace. If looking at a portrait of a specific figure inspires you, let yourself be inspired.

  It doesn't have to make sense, and it shouldn't.

  "Inspiration is god making contact with itself" — Ram Dass

  You are being reminded of parts of your true self.

  The point is to start introducing things that add this feeling to your daily life in small ways.

  This may seem unrelated, but if you can't create and experience joy in small ways, you won't do it in bigger ways.

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  Energy Is a Feeling Tone

  Everything in existence has a set of qualities translated by each individual as a unique feeling tone.

  That feeling tone creates resonance in some people, and dissonance in others.

  When something is resonant, it adds more aliveness within you. You feel more energetic and connected because of it.

  Think of it like music: When two musical instruments have matching sound waves, the sound is amplified. When they don't, they create disharmony, or in some cases can even cancel each other out.

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  The Essence of This Practice is PLAY

  PLAY.

  None of this is serious. I'm not asking you to torch your life to the ground.

  You will still show up for your current life, but you'll see it differently—as part of your bigger story (even though you don't know how yet), not random chapters that the publishing house has added to your book by mistake.

  You have to enjoy playing this character for this to make sense.

  This is NOT about "manifestation". You have to play for the love of the game.

  At first, you'll only do it here and there. You'll stumble or forget most of the time. That's okay.

  But one day, out of nowhere, in the most mundane moment, you'll have this realization:

  I have become that character. Or that character has become me. Or we have always been one.

  You will look around you and realize your life has become a reflection of this new being.

  Although that moment will feel magical, it’s not magic.

  It makes complete sense: If you are this person, and your actions are congruent with them and the universe they have designed, then it follows that your reality will soon begin to match.

  And when you start to get momentum again, you will become unstoppable, because NOTHING will put wind under your sails like a win.

  → GET THE WORKSHEET TO COMPLETE THE EXERCISES. Do this now. You already know the answers. You just have to remove the veils.

  In the next video, I'll show you how to break this vision down: 1-year plan → smaller goals → daily actions. All you'll need is 90 minutes. See you next time!